> my problem is that i cannot connect to the same file with both (my app and flamerobin/fb server).

The server wants exclusive access to the database, so the only option
when you want to connect with a server is to use the server for all
connections to that database.

The embedded version will work from to instances because it only locks
while accessing the database (And i think it is waiting for writing
when another process is using it)

Martijn