No doubt there is some substance to the blaming on both sides of this
argument. Personally I find it very difficult to think clearly and do
any work if I get involved in this kind of emotion, so none of this is
remotely helpful, and is actually damaging and counterproductive. Let's
just cooperate and make progress. The past is another country. Life is
so much more enjoyable that way, and besides, we want a D2009 compatible
version of IBO, not the Spanish Inquisition.



Roger Vellacott

Passfield Data Systems Ltd

+44 (0) 1404 514402

+44 (0) 7831 156839





From: IBObjects@yahoogroups.com [mailto:IBObjects@yahoogroups.com] On
Behalf Of Martijn Tonies
Sent: 01 May 2009 12:19
To: IBObjects@yahoogroups.com
Subject: Re: [IBO] IBO for Delphi 2009








Jason,

I'm getting back to this.

Martijn Tonies wrote:

> Hello Jason,
>
>> You speak as if I am deliberately transferring burdens. I don't
>> appreciate
>> what this insinuates. You don't know what I've been through and
>> apparently
>> that's of no concern. Fair enough. If and when you have similar

problems,

>> don't complain if nobody gives a damn about you. You exaggerated your
>> remarks but I forgive you for that because you are making some valid
>> points.

This is a bold statement to make Jason, I wonder if this anger coming
from you is because "we" are right or because you're trying to blame
someone else for your apparent misery.

--8<--

>> Two years went by, if it was even that long, not because of neglect

or

>> disinterest on my part, but because you were not clear in how you
>> described
>> your issue. I told you it was finished over and over and it was as I
>> understood it but you were not sufficiently specific and left things

in

>> limbo. You share the blame in this.

--8<--

Now that you've played the "blame"-card I can see where this is going.

Do you also want to blame me for telling your customers to stay around
and hang on when I'm at conferences, when they ask me if I know what's
going on with you?

Do you also want to blame me for trying to contact you or Helen for
that matter in order to try and understand what's going on at your end?

Do you also want to blame me for you not having a (decent) internet
connection for months at a time?

Do you also want to blame me for not keeping up with Firebird releases?

Do you also want to blame me for not participating in the Delphi 2009
field test?

I could go on and on Jason, but it seems you can just blame me for not
bothering anymore because there's hardly a point in trying to contact
you:
your spam filter is failing, your internet connection is hardly ever
there
and IF you get a message, you fail to act month after month after month.
Yep, blame me for that, feel free to do so...

I certainly hope that the people closer to you give a damn about you,
as do the people around me. For those around me, I'm certain they would
tell me I'm going gradually insane if they see me blaming everyone else
for my own decisions.

Good luck with your personal life, as I've always wished you.

With regards,

Martijn Tonies
Upscene Productions
http://www.upscene.com

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